Wife and I are divorcing after 13yrs of marriage… she is pregnant by another man… legal questions help?
Question by venicedrowningme : Wife and I are divorcing after 13yrs of marriage… she is pregnant by another man… legal questions help? Wife and I are separated. About 3 months later, she informed me she was pregnant by her new b/f. I was legally obligated to keep her on my insurance till our divorce is final or open enrollment in Jan. 2010. She has been paying me half my insurance fee that is deducted automatically from my check. All her pregnancy fees are going straight to my insurance. A month after we separated, she wrote out a paper saying that she will be paying for half the health insurance that is automatically taken from my check. It has not been legally notarized. And had I known she was pregnant I would not have signed it. It only has mine and her signatures. Now she has informed me that her new b/f is now her “power of attorney”, even though I still carry insurance on her, and we are not divorced. She is now holding the paper we both signed in front of me saying that I agreed to her paying half the insurance, and until we divorce I am obligated to that. Even though, I didn’t know and she didn’t tell me she was pregnant. So, is this paper she wrote up about paying for half the insurance legal… and can her b/f be “power of attorney” over her, even though we are still married? Best answer:
Answer by Jery E
you got played by your cheating wh0re of a wife. sucker.
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Only thing I can think of is taking her to civil court and suing her for whatever you have to pay. She manipulated and tricked you maliciously, you’ll claim, by using the institute of marriage as a reason for agreeing to the contract while on the side she was cheating and thus disrespecting the institute. As such the institute of marriage in your subjective, individual case was never truly a valid reason.
If the paper was NOT notorized then legally you can get out of it. But there are alot of things in this situation that would hurt her if she tried to take you to court. Check out this website(they really helped my husband get custody of his three children) and his ex was alot like yours. Get even Legally.net. Best of Luck
What you signed is immaterial to the situation.That she pays you half the premium is immaterial. As long as you keep her on your health insurance plan the insurance plan will pay the bills for her. You can eliminate her from your plan by advising your human resource department to drop her from the plan. You will go from a family plan probably to a single payer plan. As for the power of attorney what does she need it for? I see no way that it impacts you as you have no legal obligation for the future child–unless you signed paper acknowledging fatherhood.
POA can go to anyone. Dating that soon after separation is skanky…my husband is dating already too and it’s so wrong! I would check with your state ASAP to see what you have to do to make sure you don’t become the child’s legal father. In some states, they hook you just for being married. My husband actually has a child by a girl who was still married when she got pregnant. My husband doesn’t pay any child support for his daughter since the state assumed that it was the mother’s husband’s child and HE has to pay. I believe you can sign a denial of paternity prior to her giving birth so the actual dad is responsible. The insurance thing…well, I think you got taken for a ride. Consult an atty about the paperwork. They have free consultations…VERY useful! Sometimes it doesn’t matter that you have it, unless it’s a court order. Good luck!!