Comments on: my mom says not to worry? http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/ Just another WordPress site Fri, 17 May 2013 03:51:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Caring girl. http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19137 Caring girl. Thu, 21 Jun 2012 17:14:34 +0000 http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19137 Your Mum is right. You should not worrier. Instead you should take positive steps to solve your many problems that you seem to be having. Your Mum is right. You should not worrier. Instead you should take positive steps to solve your many problems that you seem to be having.

]]> By: Garth B http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19136 Garth B Thu, 21 Jun 2012 16:25:19 +0000 http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19136 I think you are sort of on the right track with "locking myself in my closet until its all over". But, instead, I think you need to look through to the end, after this period of your life is over, and how good you might be able to make it. Whatever you need to do to accomplish that "new life" needs to take priority. You need to shut your mind to all the distractions to getting there. For example, if you want to be in college two years from now, you need to decide what you have to do to get there. If the best chance is for you to get your marks up higher, then make a schedule of what you have to study and when to do it. Be organized. Get a plan and follow it. If on the other hand you think you will need to raise the money yourself, then look for a job close to where you are. Then, give your priority to that job. Make sure that your grade point average is high enough to get into college but put the job first. Let your mother know that this is what you are doing so that she knows that you are having to put her needs after your needs for the time being. She is the adult, after all, and should be taking care of you to the best of her ability. As for the conniving sister, see what you can do about alternate transportation. If you live in a big city, there is public transit. See how much it costs. Suggest your mother use it as well. I have lived without a car in such a place and it is not that difficult. On the other hand, if you live in a smaller center where there is no public transport, it is limiting as you have to stay pretty much within walking distance of home. Still, try to think positively. This also involves how to deal with these "every day" problems. When there is a problem, it is not the time to cast blame, it is the time to work together with your mother towards a solution. If the alternatives are all bad, pick the best alternative and live with it. Don't criticize it unless you have something better to offer. And, then offer it. Personally, I think taking the bus is a much better alternative to being dependent on someone who is manipulative and conniving. Life has its ups and downs. Enjoy the ups. During the downs, look forward to their being over and plan for getting to that time. Then, concentrate your effort on the key elements of getting there. I think you are sort of on the right track with “locking myself in my closet until its all over”. But, instead, I think you need to look through to the end, after this period of your life is over, and how good you might be able to make it. Whatever you need to do to accomplish that “new life” needs to take priority. You need to shut your mind to all the distractions to getting there.

For example, if you want to be in college two years from now, you need to decide what you have to do to get there. If the best chance is for you to get your marks up higher, then make a schedule of what you have to study and when to do it. Be organized. Get a plan and follow it. If on the other hand you think you will need to raise the money yourself, then look for a job close to where you are. Then, give your priority to that job. Make sure that your grade point average is high enough to get into college but put the job first. Let your mother know that this is what you are doing so that she knows that you are having to put her needs after your needs for the time being. She is the adult, after all, and should be taking care of you to the best of her ability.

As for the conniving sister, see what you can do about alternate transportation. If you live in a big city, there is public transit. See how much it costs. Suggest your mother use it as well. I have lived without a car in such a place and it is not that difficult. On the other hand, if you live in a smaller center where there is no public transport, it is limiting as you have to stay pretty much within walking distance of home. Still, try to think positively.

This also involves how to deal with these “every day” problems. When there is a problem, it is not the time to cast blame, it is the time to work together with your mother towards a solution. If the alternatives are all bad, pick the best alternative and live with it. Don’t criticize it unless you have something better to offer. And, then offer it. Personally, I think taking the bus is a much better alternative to being dependent on someone who is manipulative and conniving.

Life has its ups and downs. Enjoy the ups. During the downs, look forward to their being over and plan for getting to that time. Then, concentrate your effort on the key elements of getting there.

]]> By: here http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19135 here Thu, 21 Jun 2012 16:18:17 +0000 http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19135 you know, i had the same problem about 2 years ago. my mom was accused of DUI, and we lost our car, and then my dad had got laid of. so it was up to me and my brother, but he had decided to move out, so it was really up to me. thank god i was in a summer internship working, so i was like the parents with all the bills in my hands. and out of all the money i had it all went to the bills. i really came out with nothing. then to top it off i one of my sisters had passed away... but after helping and everything, my dad had found a job, and we got our car back. so all i would say to you is help as much as you can, and it will be all over. i think of it as "Hard work has many rewards." hope i helped you. and hope everything gets better. you know, i had the same problem about 2 years ago. my mom was accused of DUI, and we lost our car, and then my dad had got laid of. so it was up to me and my brother, but he had decided to move out, so it was really up to me. thank god i was in a summer internship working, so i was like the parents with all the bills in my hands. and out of all the money i had it all went to the bills. i really came out with nothing. then to top it off i one of my sisters had passed away… but after helping and everything, my dad had found a job, and we got our car back. so all i would say to you is help as much as you can, and it will be all over. i think of it as “Hard work has many rewards.”
hope i helped you. and hope everything gets better.

]]> By: Samantha http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19134 Samantha Thu, 21 Jun 2012 16:01:35 +0000 http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19134 Wow, you sound like me. If you have time, try staying after a couple times a week and get some of you're missing work in if you have any...if not.. explain to you're teachers some things you may not get. I know it sucks staying after beleive me sometimes i say im gonna then when it comes to the end of the day i dont..but this year ive been doing it and im passing every class... i was/am like you. i crashed our new trail blazer in november on my way back from a club..going under the speed limit with my 2 best friends in the ca, hit black ice and totaledit and i was feeaking out cuz i knew my parents would be mad..and our cells had just got turned off that day and we didnt have a house phone..so i had to call ppl to get them and it took 30 min for an ambulance to comee. mom was pissed...we had no car for awhile..had to beg ppl for rides to work everyday, im in school and was working 5-6 days a week..my mom works 7-12 everydayexcept sat and sunday, i work 4-9 on weekdays and 2-9 on weeeknds. mom got told by doctor not too long ago that she needs to stop drinking..livers bad...she stopped for two weeks then drank 5 days in a row, dad is trying to quit but not working..he drinks and drives..mom picked me up the other day with a drink in the car and she was kinda drunk..never happens. my bf doesnt have a job so i have to pay for everything but my dress for prom..which is gonna cost me bout 400 ish dollars..ive been workin as much as possible until my prom comes-may 16th. my dads been an assholeee. believe me, i know how you feel..and im sorry i just told u random shitt. i guess i needed to talk to someone too lol just letting u know if u need to talk..im here too! ppl are stupid if they call you emo, ignore it or punch them. =] you just have family issues right now thats all. just try to relax at night when ur in bed and think bout ways u can try and fix some of these things..i dont really know what else to say.. i kinda lost my train of thought. lol email me if u want. badbitch1058@yahoo.com Wow, you sound like me.
If you have time, try staying after a couple times a week and get some of you’re missing work in if you have any…if not.. explain to you’re teachers some things you may not get. I know it sucks staying after beleive me sometimes i say im gonna then when it comes to the end of the day i dont..but this year ive been doing it and im passing every class… i was/am like you. i crashed our new trail blazer in november on my way back from a club..going under the speed limit with my 2 best friends in the ca, hit black ice and totaledit and i was feeaking out cuz i knew my parents would be mad..and our cells had just got turned off that day and we didnt have a house phone..so i had to call ppl to get them and it took 30 min for an ambulance to comee. mom was pissed…we had no car for awhile..had to beg ppl for rides to work everyday, im in school and was working 5-6 days a week..my mom works 7-12 everydayexcept sat and sunday, i work 4-9 on weekdays and 2-9 on weeeknds. mom got told by doctor not too long ago that she needs to stop drinking..livers bad…she stopped for two weeks then drank 5 days in a row, dad is trying to quit but not working..he drinks and drives..mom picked me up the other day with a drink in the car and she was kinda drunk..never happens. my bf doesnt have a job so i have to pay for everything but my dress for prom..which is gonna cost me bout 400 ish dollars..ive been workin as much as possible until my prom comes-may 16th. my dads been an assholeee.

believe me, i know how you feel..and im sorry i just told u random shitt. i guess i needed to talk to someone too lol
just letting u know if u need to talk..im here too!
ppl are stupid if they call you emo, ignore it or punch them. =]
you just have family issues right now thats all.
just try to relax at night when ur in bed and think bout ways u can try and fix some of these things..i dont really know what else to say.. i kinda lost my train of thought. lol
email me if u want.
badbitch1058@yahoo.com

]]> By: Stepha http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19133 Stepha Thu, 21 Jun 2012 15:13:06 +0000 http://www.dui-attorney-news.com/blog/dui-arrest/my-mom-says-not-to-worry/#comment-19133 i know i hate it too when my rents tell me to bring up my grades...it's not that easy, but the only motivation you need is this: you are graduating next year...i think if colleges see that you brought your grades up and REALLY worked a lot towards the end of high school, then they will say she is a hard worker and when things are tough, she brings it...so work reallyyy hard in school and just do your best and if 2.6 is the best you can do, then ok you did your best. but also there are other options...you can get look into student loans so that you can go to college for a smaller price adn then pay then back in small amounts over the years, or you can get a job during high school or after college and save up a LOTTT of money for college...and make sure to work really hard in college too, if you really want to go...but think aobut this too: if you want to go to college, you are going to need motivation because if you are going to pay ALL that money and hten not do anythign, you might as well not go to college...but it's the same with high school so work really hard so that you can get a better shot at college and save up all your money...and i know that if you pick up your own life, your family will start to pick up as well following your example...you can do it =]] ur mom is rite it's gonna be fine =] i know i hate it too when my rents tell me to bring up my grades…it’s not that easy, but the only motivation you need is this: you are graduating next year…i think if colleges see that you brought your grades up and REALLY worked a lot towards the end of high school, then they will say she is a hard worker and when things are tough, she brings it…so work reallyyy hard in school and just do your best and if 2.6 is the best you can do, then ok you did your best. but also there are other options…you can get look into student loans so that you can go to college for a smaller price adn then pay then back in small amounts over the years, or you can get a job during high school or after college and save up a LOTTT of money for college…and make sure to work really hard in college too, if you really want to go…but think aobut this too: if you want to go to college, you are going to need motivation because if you are going to pay ALL that money and hten not do anythign, you might as well not go to college…but it’s the same with high school so work really hard so that you can get a better shot at college and save up all your money…and i know that if you pick up your own life, your family will start to pick up as well following your example…you can do it =]] ur mom is rite it’s gonna be fine =]

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