Q&A: I’m filing for divorce and I need help?
Question by Chris Ryan : I’m filing for divorce and I need help? This is going to get complicated, so please try to follow.
I’m 20 years old and got married July 4th 2008. I have a daughter that turns 1 year old in April. We both lived in Iowa our whole lives but we moved to Texas the last week of August 2008. I’m about to go active duty Army and go to Fort Campbell, KY for my duty station. I leave April 29th.
I am sick of dealing with all the drama that my wife throws at me.
She doesn’t help pay any bills, doesn’t pick up after herself, doesn’t help clean the apartment, if she cooks she leaves all the food out (usually resulting in it spoiling or going bad before I even get home from work), she says she supports me in my going active but gets a HUGE attitude whenever I talk about it, I’ve tried to sit her down to talk things out but it’s way beyond that point. My current job makes me get up at about 430 in the morning and I don’t get off from work until well after 630 at night. Anytime she wants to start an arguement she’ll come into the room around 12 in the morning (i try to be in bed by 10-1030 every night) and wake me up by ripping the covers off and yelling at me until 3 or 4 AM so I don’t get more than 2 or 3 hours of sleep at night and my job is high speed and high stress so I have to get sleep. I’m sick of it, and since I’m about to go active duty and I’m infantry, I’m going to be deployed a lot and I don’t want to come home from war and deal with this BS between deployments. I was also planning on traveling back to Iowa to visit family and friends before I went full time active duty, but due to her squandering the money I had saved up for this, I can no longer go visit before I leave. I’ve made up my mind to divorce her but I need help. It’s a long and complicated process and I need a lot of help. I don’t have money for a lawyer so the more help I can get from people on here the better.
I’ve looked at the websites talking about the divorce laws in Texas, but since I’m moving to Kentucky for the Army in about a month and a half, I don’t know how I should handle this. I want to do something fast so when I go active I don’t have to deal with this as much.
I’m not looking for smartass answers or snide comments, this is a real issue and I need to get it solved as soon as I can. I know most of you will probably say “Get a lawyer” but as I said I don’t have money for a lawyer. Best answer:
Answer by Pocket Protectorate
Try this website for a beginning understanding of it all…maybe you could afford “online divorce…”
Give it try (click on link)
http://www.kentuckydivorceonline.com/?c=Y002
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What about your one year old daughter? You only mentioned that you have a daughter, but said nothing else about her.
I think you were ( probably both of you ) too young when you got married and were not ready for all the responsibilities of marriage and raising a family.
But you do have a daughter and you are responsible toward her. Try to fix things before you totally give up.
Children need both their parents, unless they are really abusive. Is it OK with you if your daughter is going to be living with your wife’s future boyfriend/husband?
I think you should try talking to your wife first.