Question by John: Feeling Guilty about a DUI Charge- But I think I’m *actually* innocent, opinions?
Last year, my 2nd year of grad school, I was driving with a friend. I got in the car sober, but unbeknownst to me he was not. The passenger had taken a large amount of painkillers. We were about 20 minutes away from my house, so, irresponsibly I accepted about 20mg Oxycontin and ate them while driving. I had a high tolerance at the time from various prescribed pills and a very full stomach.
Being a fairly experienced opiate user, I knew or more like rationalized that I had about 25 minutes, before they would kick in. And at that dose I knew I would be no more inebriated than having a beer and a half.
However, right after I took the pills things went south for my friend very quickly. His breathing became very shallow and he was going unconscious. This wasn’t the first near-fatal OD I’d seen before so I knew what to do. I told him to keep talking to me and grip my hand tight, so I would know when/if he became unconscious. I didn’t know how much he’d taken, so I drove around a little bit trying to think a plan.
After about 5 minutes of increasingly shallow breathing, I decided to haul a** to the hospital. I was maybe 15 minutes away. On the way there I noticed an ambulance along the side of the road. I bit the bullet and pulled up behind the ambulance. Thinking they’d get there faster than I could. Then as calmly as possible I put the car in park, pulled the parking brake and took out the keys and pocketed them. I then quickly approached.
Speaking as objectively as possible I was not impaired at the time, they hadn’t kicked in yet. Turns out there were a couple cops there too, who immediately treated me like a criminal. They said I had to take a field sobriety test, which I later found out from my attorney, was fallacious. You’re only legally required to take a blood/urine/piss test
But, my main concern was my friend being resuscitated, not 5 feet from where they were testing me, Additionally, they removed my glasses, I’m severely nearsighted , which made walking a straight line difficult. They never told me if I passed or failed and just called me a “junkie”
Case for my innocence:
I was not seen driving by the police
I made no moving violations while driving
The drugs only kicked in after I got out of the car
They removed my glasses for the field test
I more or less saved my friend’s life.
My attorney says its ok to share this story anonymously, he’s very good, so far the case has been delayed some 5 months from the original court date
Even though I feel like I did the right thing, given the situation, and this was my only time driving under the influence, yet I fully acknowledge I acted irresponsibly. But its been 5 months since it happened, I’m sober now, in school, doing well, yet the guilt creeps up all the time.
I’d just like to hear some comments or personal experiences.
You guys are all correct in your critiques of my actions, I do appreciate the honesty. All of your logic is spot on. But, believe me that I’m haunted by the experience on a daily basis.
In my defense, I was extremely distressed at the time, it’s not every day that I have a close friend dying in my passenger seat. So my logic was severely impaired, not from the drugs so much, but the emotions at stake. Believe it or not 20mg of Oxy was just enough to make me feel normal at the time. But I’ve made serious strides in that regard. 12 Steps wasn’t for me, but I see a shrink on a weekly basis.
To the few who may doubt my story, I have no reason to lie about it on an anonymous internet board. My defense is already all planned out. I just wanted to get this story out in a safe environment. And perhaps it can serve as a cautionary tale.
I’m also curious as to why some of you doubt that I’m sober now? It’s been a hell of an emotional journey. I’m not looking for sympathy here, just some cons
Answer by Ashley
i bet they will drop it or reduce it… it doesnt seem fair or legal…sorry for the bad luck..did u admit u took drugs as well or did thsy just assume because of your friend?
What do you think? Answer below!